We all want to have friends that will last forever. This is often a struggle for many people including myself. The problem is, that we look for forever, in people who are not supposed to be in our lives forever. I struggled with this for a long time. Now I know that if I am patient, God will place the right people in my life at the right time.
We have friends that serve different purposes in our lives, this is something we have to truly grasp so that when it comes time to let people go we can.
You are always changing and so are the people you hang out with. Many people you meet may just be in your life for the moment. Not everybody is going to be in your life forever. It’s okay to have people that are in your life for just a moment, maybe they were there to help you get through something or you being help to them. After there is no more reason for that person to be in your life, it’s okay to let them go. Just make sure you keep up with them, maybe you’ll need each other again one day.
You may feel bad because you are have changed and matured as a person, but the people you hang out with have not. It’s okay to leave them behind and move on, if it’s going to benefit you in the long run.
Are you truly yourself?
When you hang out with your friends, are you the best version of you? If you can not be the who you truly are with the people you hang out with, your friendship probably will not last. It’s important that you can be yourself with the people you hang out with; otherwise you are holding yourself back from greater potential.
It’s kind of weird to say, but if your friends are not benefiting you the relationship will not last long. Is your relationship one sided or are you both helping to lift each other up. You can get tired of constantly helping someone and getting nothing in return. Yes, we shouldn’t give to get, but you can become exhausted constantly taking care of other people. Trust me I’ve been there.
So to help you figure out if the people in your life right now are here for now or here for forever; I have a question for you..
Would you want to trade places with them?
If you would not want to trades lives with the people you hang out with now, they probably are not the best people. When you think about trading lives with them also think about these things: their money situation; their family life; their job; their friends; their passions and dreams; etc.
Hanging out with people who are passionate and driven will help you stay inspired. You become like the six people you hang out with most, so choose them wisely!!
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33